Informal Daytime: Short dress or suit (business attire
OK for morning weddings)

Formal Daytime: Short dress or suit. Hats and gloves optional.

Semi-Formal Daytime:
Short dress or suit

Semi-formal Evening:
Cocktail dress

Informal Evening: Cocktail

Formal Evening or Black-Tie:
Long or dressy short cocktail dress

Ultra-formal or White Tie:
 A long gown, tasteful beading
glam accessories, wrap

Do's and Don'ts for Her 
Don't wear sequins during the daytime.
Don't worry about wearing the same colors as the bridesmaids or mothers. You can't possibly coordinate with everyone in the wedding party.
Do wear something feminine and please, be appropriate. Clubwear, overtly sexy clothing (strapless, see-through, etc) does not belong at a wedding. If you have to ask if it's okay, its probably not.
Don't wear opera-length gloves (to top of arm) with anything but sleeveless or strapless gowns.
Do take off gloves to eat or drink.
Do use good judgment if the invitation does not specify the formality. A beautiful suit or soft floral dress for daytime or a little black dress for evening (after 6 p.m.) will take you almost anywhere.





Informal Daytime: Dress shirt and pants, preferably a sports jacket.


Formal Daytime:
Dark suit and tie


Semi-Formal Daytime:
A business suit


Semi-Formal Evening:
Dark suit, tie, pocket square 


Informal Evening: A business suit


Formal Evening: Tuxedo (if invitation states "black tie") or dark suits if women wear short dresses.


Ultra-formal Evening
or White Tie
White tie, cummerbund, vest and shirt.

Do's and Don'ts for Him
Don't try to get clever with a tuxedo. A black tux with white shirt and black bow tie is the best way to go. If "Creative Black Tie" or "Texas Formal" or some sort of other vague formal description is used, then going with a tux and black shirt and tie, might be acceptable. Also, trendier cities like Miami, Los Angeles and New York might be more accepting of breaking with tradition.
Do wear a dark suit, with a tie if the wedding is after 6 PM, and doesn't say "Black Tie."
Don't wear a tuxedo during the daytime.  Those that do are
called "waiters."
Do use good judgment if the invitation doesn't specify the formality of the event. A dark suit and a snappy tie are as good as gold.



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